”Ever wonder what our generation will be known for in the decades to come? I ponder the question regularly.
\nThere are so many great things we could be remembered for, but if history has taught us anything, it\u2019s the negative that tends to last the test of time, not the positive.
\nMy greatest worry is our generation will be looked at as the generation that gave up on love. We date for the sake of dating. The generation that forgot how to love \u2014 which is ridiculous. Most people have never had a good understanding of love, just a poor interpretation of it.
\nGeneration-Y seems to be the first generation moving away from conventional takes on romantic, loving relationships.\u00a0The only question that remains is whether we\u2019ll be remembered for being the first generation to accept a more logical and rational take on love or the generation that gave up on it altogether.\u00a0I guess you\u2019ll be the one to decide.<\/p>\n
1. We care more about instant gratification than we do anything else. 2. We\u2019ve built a culture driven by drugs and booze. 3. We sleep around \u2014 a lot. 4. We\u2019re becoming even more egocentric. 5. We date for the sake of dating. 6. We aren\u2019t fans of making compromises. 7. We believe in fairytale endings. 8. We\u2019ve been fooled into believing perfection is attainable. 9. We\u2019re goal driven, but often forget to include our partners in the mix. 10. Most of us are really bad at loving. That\u2019s nothing short of fact.”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" ”Ever wonder what our generation will be known for in the decades to come? I ponder the question regularly. There are so many great things we could be remembered for, but if history has taught us anything, it\u2019s the negative that tends to last the test of time, not the positive. My greatest worry is … L\u00e4s mer<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":10715,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-217","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-okategoriserad"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogg.improveme.se\/amilli\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/217","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogg.improveme.se\/amilli\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogg.improveme.se\/amilli\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogg.improveme.se\/amilli\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/10715"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogg.improveme.se\/amilli\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=217"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/blogg.improveme.se\/amilli\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/217\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogg.improveme.se\/amilli\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=217"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogg.improveme.se\/amilli\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=217"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogg.improveme.se\/amilli\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=217"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\n<\/strong>The most common trend amongst Generation-Yers is our need for instant gratification. We grew up and continue to thrive in a culture that allows us instant access to just about anything. If we want food, we have it delivered with the click of a few buttons or we walk a block or two and grab dinner. If we are bored, we have endless distractions in the form of phone apps. If we need directions or a question answered, it only takes us a couple of seconds. Such convenience is entirely a modern-day perk \u2014 previous generations never experienced anything even remotely close to it.
\nThe problem is instant gratification is addicting and often becomes a habit, a habit that tends to seep into our love lives. Love isn\u2019t meant to be experienced in an instance, but in a lifetime.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>This goes hand in hand with our culture\u2019s need for instant gratification. Drugs and booze are the most common form of self-medication. When we feel sad or unhappy, we go out for drinks. When we\u2019re stressed or unable to handle our lives, we may turn to more intense substances. Of course, not everyone drinks alcohol and\/or does drugs, but it is a trend among our generation.
\nDrugs and alcohol often end up being love\u2019s worst enemy. These substances give us the illusion of an alternate reality \u2014 a reality in which our emotions are heightened, and the love we experience becomes exponentially intense. Unfortunately, all this does is confuse us, making us believe love is little more than the feelings we experience. Nothing could be further from the truth.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Some less than others, but most individuals have multiple partners every year. Don\u2019t get me wrong, I like sex just as much as the next guy, but sleeping around ends up leaving us feeling empty. It starts out feeling exciting and gratifying, but ends up making us feel even more alone. Worse yet, it makes finding someone to love infinitely more difficult. You\u2019re wasting your time with people who mean nothing to you and, to top it all off, you are likely to turn sex into a sport. When that becomes the case, good luck trying to make love. Good luck enjoying sex when sex is no longer a special or unique experience, but just another trivial evening.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Every individual in the world is egocentric; we all think about our needs and ourselves first and foremost. Whether this is good or bad doesn\u2019t really matter; the world is the way it is. It\u2019s part of human nature. The problem arises when our egocentricity overtakes our ability to feel empathy. As human beings, we have no choice but to live and function within society, within communities of different sizes. Relationships are really nothing more than granular communities. When we focus on only ourselves, our needs, our wants and desires, the needs of the others in our community get overlooked. When this happens in a relationship, it all begins to fall apart.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>It\u2019s become a sport \u2014 a favorite pastime among Millennials. We date because we believe we\u2019re supposed to date. We\u2019re supposed to find someone to fall in love with and spend our lives with, and we are under the impression that the best way to go about it is to date as often as possible. This backwards logic brings about countless horrible relationships that never ought to have been in the first place. Every time you date someone who isn\u2019t right for you, you\u2019re giving up your chance to meet someone who is. Same goes for the rest of the world.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>We like to have things our way, always. Why wouldn\u2019t we? If we can have it our way, why would we settle for anything less? This logic makes sense until we find ourselves in a relationship. When we\u2019re a part of a relationship, we are only a piece of a greater whole. What we want and need is not nearly as important as what the relationship needs. And what the relationship often needs is for you to compromise. So you\u2019re left with a dilemma, which is fine, as long as you accept that compromises need to be made. Once we no longer accept that as a necessity, we will lose the ability to create a loving relationship.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>What was our favorite thing to watch growing up? Most people our age will say Disney. We grew up on Disney movies and learned all about love through the stories they told \u2014 or at least I did. The problem is such movies are incredibly inaccurate and often end up doing more harm than good. They create impossible expectations \u2014 expectations that always leave us disappointed in the end, not to mention confused.
\nHow could you not question your love for someone when your story doesn\u2019t line up with what you believe defines a happily ever after?<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>It\u2019s not. Never has been, never will be, and yet, we are all looking for that perfect individual. We are all looking to become that perfect individual. Sadly, we\u2019re all going to fail, and it\u2019s going to suck. No matter how unrealistic our expectations are, the disappointment we feel when they aren\u2019t achieved is very real. The grass always seems greener on the other side. But who the hell told you to look for greener grass?<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>I love the fact that our generation is really the first generation to put the focus on the individual, allowing for personal growth and development. I\u2019m proud our generation is the first generation that believes working for ourselves is better than working for someone else. Having dreams and setting goals are both incredibly important; however, what\u2019s more important is setting the right goals. We need to understand the difference between the things and individuals in our life who hold value and those that do not. Sadly, this is an area in which our generation is greatly lacking. Most of us put off finding someone to love until after we get the rest of our life together. Not sure why no one realizes finding a partner is the most important piece of the puzzle.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Love is confusing. It has layers and is mutable, changing over time and changing with each new partner we let into our lives. Love is so incredibly complex that most people simply haven\u2019t been able to get a grasp of it. It\u2019s nothing to be ashamed of, but it is reason to worry. The real question is: Are we getting better or worse at loving? That\u2019s a question I\u2019m not able to answer, but I fear it maybe the latter. Of course, each individual is different in his or her understanding, but most people seem to be incredibly lost. The issue is if we don\u2019t come to understand love better \u2014 its purpose, its boundaries and its shortcomings \u2014 we will never be happy.<\/p>\n