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By Paul N. Weinberg
Here’s the myth: Cupid’s arrow strikes you in the heart, you fall in love and you live happily ever after.
But we all know that real life doesn’t quite work that way. A more familiar story goes like this: You meet someone. The two of you have great chemistry, and you really hit it off. You jump into a relationship and you fall in love. This seems like “the one” … except that six months or a year later, you’re no longer together and you are once again single. Now repeat until emotionally exhausted.
Does this pattern of falling in and out of love sound familiar? I’ve observed it in singles for years so I’m no longer surprised each time I hear that a friend who was in love the last time I saw them is no longer with their partner. And very often, he or she is already in love with someone new.
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So if love often condemns us to a series of relatively short-term relationships – and with all due respect to Tina Turner – the obvious question is: “What’s love got to do with it?” In other words, why isn’t falling in love enough to establish an enduring, long-term relationship. And what does it take to keep us together after the emotional thrill is gone and the sexual excitement has faded?
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The simple answer is that for most people, the long term glue that binds together our personal relationships is emotional intimacy.
What is Emotional Intimacy?
Although intimacy and love often go together, love is not intimacy, and love in a relationship does not guarantee intimacy. And although a sexual relationship may lead to an emotionally intimate one, you can have sex without intimacy and intimacywithout sex. So sex is not intimacy either.
Put simply, emotional intimacy is about connecting and being connected on an emotional level to your partner. It’s the sharing of your innermost thoughts and feelings, coupled with all the ways of being together – a glance, a touch, a silent moment, a laugh, or just being present and attentive – that provide the foundation for an emotional connection in a personal relationship.
Intimacy is the complement to love that requires trust, openness, vulnerability, safety, empathy and honesty and involves deeper levels of communication that are conveyed through the sharing of feelings and emotional needs. Intimacy exists at the deepest level where each of you is able to not only feel and understand the other but also be felt and understood by the other.
So love is just one part of the larger landscape of connection in personal relationships. And it is intimacy rather than love that brings emotional depth to the connection, permits a deeper knowing of yourself and your partner, and adds longevity to your relationships.
Paul N. Weinberg is the coauthor of The I Factor, a new book about intimacy and connection in personal relationships. Available in print and ebook versions through Amazon and the Apple iTunes Bookstore. www.theifactor.com
© 2012 by Paul N. Weinberg and Dr. Susan A. Dyer.
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Simons appointment was an important moment for the house of Dior, which is an important house in fashion. It’s also important in French cultural and economic terms, full stop. If you’re trying to convince the unconvinced, throwing out the house’s 21bn turnover, and the fact that by 1949 (just two years after it was founded) Dior counted for 75 percent of Paris fashion exports, and 5 percent of all French exports full stop. Its current owner, Bernard Arnault, is the 13th richest man in the world sitting between S. Robson Walton of Wal Mart and the former mayor of New York Michael Bloomberg. Anyway.
Also on the way is a sculpture by the New Mexico based artist Ed Archie Noisecat, depicting Taoyateduta, the Dakota chief also known as Little Crow. Longfellow casually studied some Ojibwe lore published in his lifetime, but the poem has very little to do with any of the actual lore of the Ojibwe ”Hiawatha” isn’t even an Ojibwe name. Noisecat’s sculpture depicts a mask, resting on pillars, looking resolute, but also, without eyes, quite blank. Noisecat seems to be inviting you, the viewer, to look through Little Crow’s eyes.
WASHINGTON, Dec. All stamp issuance datesand dedication locations are subject to change. 3, at theCaptain Hook Hotel in Anchorage to commemorate the 50th anniversary of Alaskastatehood. Comprising more than 570,000 square miles of land, Alaska is thelargest of the 50 states and home to approximately 670,000 residents. The nameof the state derives from an Aleut word meaning ”great land.”The stamp features a photograph by Jeff Schultz of a dogsledder taken in2000 near Rainy Pass in the Alaska Range. Text on the stamp reads ”1959ALASKA.”Lunar New Year: Year of the OxThe second of 12 stamps in the Lunar New Year series, The Year of the Oxbegins Jan. 26, 2009, and ends on Feb. 13, 2010. 8 at the Katie Murphy Amphitheatre,Fashion Institute of Technology (FIT), 7th Ave. at 27th St., in New York City.Art director Ethel Kessler of Bethesda, MD, worked on the new series withillustrator Kam Mak, an artist who grew up in New York City’s Chinatown andnow lives in Brooklyn and is an associate professor in the IllustrationDepartment at FIT. Kessler and Mak decided to focus on some of the common waysthe Lunar New Year Holiday is celebrated. ”Being a Chinese American and having celebratedLunar New Year all his life,” Kessler says, ”Kam is uniquely able to show howthis holiday is observed in America.” The illustration was originally createdusing oil paints on a fiberboard panel.Kessler’s design also incorporates elements from the previous series ofLunar New Year stamps, using Clarence Lee’s intricate paper cut design of anox and the Chinese character drawn in grass style calligraphy by Lau Bun for ”ox.”The sesquicentennial of Oregon’s statehood is dedicated on a First Classstamp in Portland on Jan. 14. Oregon was officially welcomed as the 33rd statein the Union on Feb. 14, 1859. Today, Oregon boasts a diverse population, anactive and innovative urban scene, and some of the most beautiful and fertilelandscapes in the country.Artist Gregory Manchess, of Beaverton, OR, was inspired by his ownexperiences along the Pacific coast to create the painting for the stamp. Theresult is an evocative piece that incorporates several elements of thecoastline trees, rocks, cliffs, and pounding surf without illustrating aspecific place.”I wanted to make it an icon, an impression, of what the shoreline feelslike when you look at the stamp,” says the artist. Canyon Rd., in Portland. Deas of New Orleans, whose research over the years has made him wellacquainted with Poe’s appearance. In 1989, Deas published The Portraits andDaguerreotypes of Edgar Allan Poe, a comprehensive collection of imagesfeaturing authentic likenesses as well as derivative portraits.The stamp art was created by Mark Summers, who is noted for hisscratchboard technique, a style distinguished by a dense network of linesetched with exquisite precision. Each stamp features a different aspect ofLincoln’s life. H. 27, 1860, photographof Lincoln by Mathew Brady, and shows Lincoln debating Stephen A. 8, 1863,photograph of Lincoln by Alexander Gardner, and depicts Lincoln conferringwith generals Ulysses S. Grant and William T. Sherman toward the end of theCivil War. The depiction is based on ”The Peacemakers” (1868), a painting byGeorge P. A. Healy.Postal workers locked out
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L’interface Nike+ propose une analyse simplifiée des courses en un coup d’il. Pour les courses avec tracé GPS, l’interface repose sur une carte Google Maps pourvue des outils Nike+. La trace est colorée du vert (rapide) au rouge (lent). On reste ainsi dans l’intuitif voulu par Nike+. Aucun problème de précision n’est à déplorer comme on peut le voir sur les captures d’écrans. Le passage d’un trottoir à l’autre est visible sur la carte. Quelques décrochages peuvent donner des résultats incohérents mais ils restent rare.
Le Marais vit un tournant commercial aux airs de champs élysation rampante, poussée par la gentrification constante desIIIe et IVearrondissements de la capitale depuis une vingtaine d’années. L’installation des enseignes de l’hyperluxe rue des Archives, en lieu et place d’un Starbucks et d’un DailyMonop’, illustre à quel point le secteur est devenu désirable. Il prouve aussique le village, aussi gay que juif, aussi tradi que folle dans les années90, se dilue avec le développement des commerces deprêt à porter. D’ici cinq mois, Givenchy, Fendi (propriétés de LVMH), Gucci (appartenant à Kering) et Moncler (marquefranco italienne dirigée par RemoRuffini) ouvriront là des boutiques dédiées à l’homme.
Vous n pas pu échapper à la tendance du top à moitié dans son pantalon : on le glisseau niveau du ventre pour lefaire blouser devantetle laisser négligemment sorti sur les côtés et le dos, comme si la chose était venue se positionner naturellement. Un moyen de répartir les volumes et de se donner un air négligé à la, disons, Caroline de Maigret.
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je ne peux pas te donner de renseignements et j’en suis désolée, mais moi aussi je suis atteinte de cette maladie. jel’ai appris il y a une semaine et j’ai 78 ans. J’aimerai savoir quel age a ta maman et je n’ai aucune idée de ce qui va m’arriver. Il parait que l’on se retrouve assez handicapé et c’est ce qui me fait peur. Mon mari est incapable de faire quoi que ce soit, donc d’aucun secour et je ne lui en ai pas parlé.
It appears TLC wants to keep some of the Duggars on the air. While the network has temporarily pulled ”19 Kids and Counting” from its schedule, it seems only inevitable that the reality series will be officially canceled as advertisers continue to bail on the show after Josh Duggar admitted to the child molestation allegations against him. However, Us Weekly reports that the Duggars’ adult and married children Jessa and Jill, along with their husbands, Ben Seewald and Derick Dillard, are in talks for their own spinoff series.
And don’t tell me that when you heard the ad say ”that milkaholic Lindsay” that you didn’t immediately think of Lindsay Lohan. I did my own ”man on the street” survey of more than 100 people, playing them the spot and asking which famous celebrity they immediately thought of when they heard the name Lindsay in the ad. And the pattern of responses was consistent. Over and over people told me the same thing: ”um, er, I have no idea. Why do you ask? And please stop playing with my hair” But when I went on to mention ”How about Lindsay Lohan?” about a third of them said, ”Lindsay Who?” But the other two thirds said, ”Oh yeah, right. Her. What about her?” My scientific survey proves conclusively that when Americans are shown a TV spot with a toddler named Lindsay and you ask them if they have ever heard of Lindsay Lohan, two thirds of them say, yes they have! Well if that’s not grounds for a lawsuit, I don’t know what is.
Once you’ve seen a Dinesen floor, it’s hard to forget. There’s even a Mumsnet thread of wistful admirers discussing its covetability, ”now I have seen it in the flesh nothing looks as good” opines one. It’s top of the ultimate design wish list, alongside Saarinen’s pedestal table and Wegner’s wishbone chairs and particularly if your interiors taste tends towards the clean and modern, luxe Scandi if you will, then there are few things more desirable.
Warnett says the New Balance brand, which still manufactures in Maine and the Lake District, rather than completely outsourcing to the Far East, has, in the past few years, become such frequent choice for fashion insiders as well as trainer afficionados because of its historic lack of endorsements, and its refusal to shout about what it does. ”New Balance has always felt like an alternative to the mass produced product,” he says.
For the foodieKitchen Therapy in Grandview Corners, the younger and bigger sibling of Peninsula Village’s Kitchen Garden, stocks everything a home cook could salivate over. But for the foodie who may have everything, they offer cooking classes with professional (even celebrity) chefs. This fall has the Food channel’s Anthony Sedlak and The Sun’s own Karen Barnaby. Classes fill up fast, but gift certificates can be purchased toward the classes for the New Year which are still to be finalized. Stocked with the likes of wind up tin robots, pedal powered fire engines, cars and planes ($219 and up), cap guns, pickup sticks, Gumby and Pokey dolls, Slinkys and potato guns, it will transport boomers back to their own childhood.