Sometimes, or very often I sneak into Anna-lena’s site on fb, stealing her unforgetable notes. This one is from Hazelden. About how we feel when we are dealing with people who likes to play victims/martyrs. Once I was together with one guy who had this awful character. You want to know how I felt? Always trapped and angry. For you, who knows me, Im a problem solver. I dont like people acting on behave of others peoples feeling. They are for me, super egoistic people. Seek for help. You destroy relations with everyone being like that. You destroy yourself most, because one day, you will be standing, ALONE !
Me and my friend Colette, a strong independent scorpio girlie, actually born on the same date as my passione 🙂 !
Today’s thought from Hazelden is:
How do we feel around martyrs? Guilty, angry, trapped, negative, and anxious to get away.
Somehow, many of us have developed the belief that depriving ourselves, not taking care of ourselves, being a victim, and suffering needlessly will get us what we want.
It is our job to notice our abilities, our strengths, and take care of ourselves by developing and acting on them. It is our job to notice our pain and weariness and appropriately take care of ourselves.
It is our job to notice our deprivation, too, and begin to take steps to give ourselves abundance. It begins inside of us, by changing what we believe we deserve, by giving up our deprivation and treating ourselves the way we deserve to be treated.
Life is hard, but we don’t have to make it more difficult by neglecting ourselves. There is no glory in suffering, only suffering. Our pain will not stop when a rescuer comes, but when we take responsibility for ourselves and stop our own pain.
Today, I will be my own rescuer. I will stop waiting for someone else to work through my issues and solve my problems for me.
You are reading from the book: The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
”Hugging-friends” NOT MARTYRS…! I rather talk with Mr Santa Claus, then to be….( or you thinking he exist 😉 !
