Sometimes, what you want to change may directly involve someone else. For instance, perhaps you want your partner to be more understanding, more romantic or whatever….
maybe your children to be more considerate. A friend is ”taking your energy”…. U can put on your list several points.
I’ve started to ask myself, ” If I want him to be more romantic, what do/ need to be differently?” And, ” wy is it important that he’s more romantic?” Its difficult enough to change yourself, let alone other people, so my final question may be, ” What do I have to change, so that I’m okay with him being how he is?”
All IS to be HONEST with yourself. Its always easy to fall into the trap of blaming someone else for holding you back. When you are involved in others life, example friends, your family, partner and working colleagues you need to find a way to compromise.
Its not easy, but put the things you are happy to compromise on. From there you can agree a plan. I’m also asking myself, ” How important is this aim to me?” Is it worth compromising on?”
An easy way for ALWAYS getting what you WANT! Go a head in the progress…. *SMILE*
Note/photo –
How to get into that deep-romantic-you? Book a trip to Italy. Get lost in those medevial families as the Gonzaga’s from the cittá Mantova, or Scaligero famiglia from Verona…. In this photo I fall in love with all the art and the fantastic architecture inside Palazzo Ducale. Especially the golden knitted cinderella bed inside this castle, in one of all the 500hundred rooms of over 34.000kvm – was speaking to me. ” Vero, you need to rest a little away from your clients.” !
For sure, visiting those incredible rooms, you get MORE romantic.
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Slippery slope if you start changing things that are core you though. Honest to yourself and your needs first, we’re all so different and while we can have tons of friends for our different personality needs we assume one boyfriend will cover it all…