Friends. Lovers. Family. People in our lives – we have been through so many things together. We dont expect each other to live the same lives or make the same choices about work, parenting or anything else. We are all so different in so many ways. But can WE accept, how we are living our lives in different ways?
I found out how lucky Iam that has had this opportunity to live in another country. Breath other cultures. Once my friend Anne Walden said to me: ” Vero, you are too organized, and how to be flexibel you cant even spell to. I hope one day you can see the world through another window,and not only, the Stockholm, Stureplan windows. ”
Now 4 years later, I understand exactly what she was trying to tell me. I did it. I throw out my routines. I got to learn, if you knowingly put yourself into new situations and new environments, that will increase your chances of getting lucky. You have an easier time creating ”click” moments if you connect with more people and increase your social potential.
If we always meet the same friend at the same cafè at the same time, nothing about that encounter will take your life to a different place. We have to make room to find something that’s different – hang out with diverse people or go to conferences and social events outside your field. Of course YES, if you wanna seize moments. Maybe you want to stay with routine, never chance your fields. Boring? Does people really think they can go on, and on in the same footsteps, and stay happy and serene? What has far been your happiest moment in your life? Reflect on past success.
My friends sometimes asks me how I can stand some kind of things here in Italy. Its hard. I have to adapt, thats life. Im willing to change also, and my bf also need to understand for example, that I cant sit in a dinner in 4hours, talking about nothing with importance. Some women half sleeping, loss of energy. This gets me in a bad mood. I get very obstinate at the end, and I have to make a revolution, otherwise we were still sitting there, listening to these men talking and laughing. We women sleepy sleepy.
If someone thinking Iam a pain in their ass, I dont care. I dont sit and playing the comfortable quite girlfriend. I cant change my personality. This IS a new routine for me. This routine, learn me great things – that I need to have patience, and be less aggressive when speaking. Yesterday, I couldnt hold my horses. I need to change my behaviors. Its hard, but I can do.it !
