Using your brain as a smartnose when dealing with your partner can make your relation grow stronger and more loverable. As I love to listen and observe women, men, couples, my friends, unknown ppl, I realise many things quickie quickie. I try to absorb the best part of conversations that Im able to hear and in many ways the BAD conversations is the BEST for me to learn NOT how to apply and follow.
And make sure you can be sometimes funny even IF you have been together 100years.
So, what did I discover?
I often hear, that instead of asking the partner in a simple and direct way, it was builded with criticism, blaming and shaming in the sentence. That drives a wedge between a relation. An exempel could be;
” YOU never spend time with me any more?” Id like you to spend time with me – can we find a way to make that happen?” Whish sentence is more normal and dont upset your partner?
The first sentence always makes you a martyr( I hate martyries) and it doesnt get you what you want and creates a stressful environment for both of you.
That face – the sour-unhappy-one can kill all love in alla senses. SMILE, at least you are in Mykonos, Vero 🙂
SO, transform all your requests from criticism.
I have some friends that are still in this stadium that they have to prove themselves against me(????)! I have never understood this crazy serfdom(???). Anyway, do you regocnize this people that are always trying to prove that they are right and you are wrong?
What to do? Do as the persian poet Rumi did; ” Out beyond ideas of right-doing and wrog-doing, there lieas a field. I will meet you there !
Sometimes your body language speaks by itself. Even if so, there are too many egoistic ppl around that doesnt understand how uncomfortable you can feel. They need first to find 2 path.
Self-insight & Empathy