If you want to kill a relationship right away, have an affair. But if you want to make the slowy slowy one, use criticism. Criticism can probably be the one thing I dislike in all kind of relations. It really makes me feel attacked and unloved.
Im happy though my childhood brought me piles of self-confidence and non-sensitive surving kit. All are not made of steel and if you are the more sensitive lady, criticism can be so damaging for your self-esteem. All relationship irritants can lead partners to criticize each other. But criticism is a dangerous irritant in itself.
Nowadays either I talk in a tone like a man ( silence-talking man) with calm voice putting some salty spicy arguments into.it – OR I dont say anything. The last option is advisable. I know its good to say how you feel regarding shit-talk, but hey if you know its not true – never respond.
Some men/women they can change. Some never – LEAVE.
Afterwile you ending up like the model at Blink-182 🙁
Many women are such crap also, they are apt to tell a partner exactly what is wrong with him and how he needs to change. People dont change when conversations starts with criticism.
Men are more likely to shut down and refuse to be a part of that crap…. men feel attacked, defensive, unable to listen with an open mind…hahah, right isnt it? Can leave room also 🙂 or the house !
Many couples get caught in vicious cycles of complaining and criticizing each other, talking about the same issues over and over. In other words, what you can change is your perspective.
Try ” The Work ” – it has never been more easy having communications in all my relations. If they leave – remember it was meant to be.
A better christmas present maybe arrives 🙂