As we are living in a world that obsesses beauty, power, money and other important statements,that we feel is necessary in our lives, THAT course it shouldn’t be. I have to tell you about a story from one of my friend, that has big problems regarding jealousy. The friend is aware that I’m writing about her problem, and of course her name is WP(womanpower) 🙂 !
WP, she gets jealous very easily and over silly little things, at work, with friends, with family or even with people she just met. An example, could be: if during a group conversation, if someone gets more eye contact then her, she starts thinking that, that person is better then her. She oftens believe that people are annoyed with her and that she done something wrong. She is aware that in most situations she suffer from low self-esteem and that she is quiet, even though this is not who she really am. When she feels comfortable, she is outgoing and don’t analyse as much.
Even if she doesn’t have a good ”singer voice” she once told me that she got jealous of me….(?) … I asked her if she likes to sing, and she answered me no, so for me I feel it very wierd that she dosent even wants to be able to have a good voice, so she can sing…hihihi.
I told her what I feel about her situation, and what we could analyse around that one, was that she only thinking about things that she hasn’t got(even if she is not interested to become a new Adele ) She has plenty of many lovely postive things that for example I haven’t got. She is a splendid painter. She has thick hair that I could die for:)! Her integrity is also something she can share with me, if she wants:)….
I admire her honesty that she told me this. I think that needing such affirmation is a kind of narcissism. Its like for me she can’t quite belive she will survive without it, and it annoys her that others can’t detect that she deserve it. For me she is giving other people too much power to keep her emotional life in balance.
She needs to value herself rather than to expect others to do it for her. By working on strenghtening her fragile self esteem she will reduce this craving for positive affirmation from others.
Her close friends that know her problems, we can help her, but if it has been a main deep problem almost in her whole life, its time to do something about it. Seeing a professional one is a good start to begin.
I know WP is gonna make it one day without our help. Its just that I have been worried. She until now has really understood why often relations with others comes and goes in her life. For people who don’t have understandings or, don’t want to help…. this is something that they can’t stand, and they also chose something else to obsesses in life…….someone less jealous and narcissistic…….
Note/ don’t be jealous of me hair girls…its thin like some-particular-body-hair-from-one-part-of-our-bodies:) – Me happy eating the last night in Ibiza in a typical agricultura tourismo restaurant, local food from a little village.
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